Yesterday Violet's Daddy took her to the Museum of Science in Boston.
Violet has a week away from school before Kindergarten begins and she is spending this time with him and my 'rents.
He is very lucky he has this paid time off with her! I am more than jealous as one can imagine. I would give anything to have a few days with her to myself. I miss her very much (but I definitely do not mind these stress/school free mornings).
Some Random Thoughts:
1. Words I never EVER thought I would utter: "I wish I had a glue gun". Ha. Craft planning for my sister's baby shower is proving to be very interesting. Interesting as in, my crafts will probably look like this:
2. Thanks to my Mom, I've been introduced to a brand new yoga studio in my town, opening soon. I am anxious to check the place out. Their prices are the best I've seen.
3. I've concluded that commuting to work sucks. And this is why: (1) Gas. (2) Road Kill. (3) Terrible motorists. Seriously, do people see other aholes driving poorly and decide it looks fun? (4) From #3: Fear of Death in Firey Crash. (5) Too much time on the road and not enough time at home/with Violet. (6) The radio is soooo bad and the only non-pop, good station is gone now.
4. I have started to look at other living arrangements for me and V-ster. No, not because I love the fun times associated with moving (sigh) but because my apartment gives me the yuckies - big time. The kitchen sink and fridge leak. There is mold *everywhere*. A skunk has taken up residence in the bush behind my back door. My neighbors do not like to give me enough room to park in my designated spot. There are two distinct kind of flies reproducing in my kitchen and bathroom at an alarming rate. My bathroom smells like death or river water or both. And my landlords could give a hoot about any of it.
5. I was reading on Kris Carr's site as I often do, for inspiration and guiding words. I found this article and would like to share some points I thought go along nicely with the work I've been doing with John Kim's Transparency:
From Maria Mooney's Article: Great Expectations, Great Disappointments?
Most of us have expectations. They are created and designed to help us attain peace of mind by predicting how the near or far future will unfold. They also help us make sense out of a world that is so often quite frightening and uncertain. When our expectations are fulfilled, we feel pleasantly surprised or satisfied; but when they aren’t, we often emerge bitterly disappointed and possibly traumatized because we have attached emotions to neutral outcomes.
I used to wake up every morning expecting to be healed, and morning after morning, my condition remained the same or worsened. It wasn’t until I surrendered to “what is” that I let go of expectation and subsequently disappointment, sadness and frustration. Your expectations, be they realistic or unrealistic, are the only causes of your disappointments and become the fertile grounds for which letdowns can and will flourish.
Concerning relationships and expectations, it is important to understand that certain people have limitations, whether they be mental, emotional, spiritual or physical, and that setting unrealistic expectations of others will end in nothing but bitterness, resentment, blame, feelings of letdown and even hatred. Understanding the limitations of others will allow us to circumvent disappointment by not setting unrealistic expectations that these individuals, even on their best days (perhaps, even in this lifetime), will not be able to meet.
A tip for avoiding the disappointments of unmet expectations and the judgment and resentment that often accompany them is to always approach each individual in your life as if you are meeting him or her for the first time. This will allow you to enter each situation without being clouded by the disappointments of the unmet expectations of the past. Avoiding the traps of expectations will allow you to have healthier relationships with others and ultimately with yourself.
Instead of focusing on what you don’t have or what you wish could happen, focus on what you do have. Stop living in the past or future and start focusing on the present moment. Have gratitude for the abundance in your life, and if you can’t find anything to be grateful for, look harder. For most of us, we are accustomed to a culture of deficit, of wanting more. What if you have everything you already need? What if you stopped longing for more, more, more, and started seeing the blessings in your life? Not only will you be happier and more at peace, but you will also attract more abundance to you.
I found some pieces of this article touched home for me. This weekend I had a run-in with a family member, a very important one, where I felt ashamed and helpless. He made it clear to me just how disappointed and shamed he remains in my life choices. I know damn well that I am not to blame for some the difficultly he has with his sisters (in which he regards me as a major reason for that difficulty) but yes, I of course take some of the blame. I shamed him. I know this. But he had issues before I ever came on the scene. I cannot take on all of this. I cannot accept that I am the reason he has problems communicating with his own family. I will not own that.
Violet has a week away from school before Kindergarten begins and she is spending this time with him and my 'rents.
He is very lucky he has this paid time off with her! I am more than jealous as one can imagine. I would give anything to have a few days with her to myself. I miss her very much (but I definitely do not mind these stress/school free mornings).
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| Violet with one of the only four complete Triceratops in the world! |
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| My little butterfly in the butterfly exhibit. |
Some Random Thoughts:
1. Words I never EVER thought I would utter: "I wish I had a glue gun". Ha. Craft planning for my sister's baby shower is proving to be very interesting. Interesting as in, my crafts will probably look like this:
2. Thanks to my Mom, I've been introduced to a brand new yoga studio in my town, opening soon. I am anxious to check the place out. Their prices are the best I've seen.
3. I've concluded that commuting to work sucks. And this is why: (1) Gas. (2) Road Kill. (3) Terrible motorists. Seriously, do people see other aholes driving poorly and decide it looks fun? (4) From #3: Fear of Death in Firey Crash. (5) Too much time on the road and not enough time at home/with Violet. (6) The radio is soooo bad and the only non-pop, good station is gone now.
4. I have started to look at other living arrangements for me and V-ster. No, not because I love the fun times associated with moving (sigh) but because my apartment gives me the yuckies - big time. The kitchen sink and fridge leak. There is mold *everywhere*. A skunk has taken up residence in the bush behind my back door. My neighbors do not like to give me enough room to park in my designated spot. There are two distinct kind of flies reproducing in my kitchen and bathroom at an alarming rate. My bathroom smells like death or river water or both. And my landlords could give a hoot about any of it.
5. I was reading on Kris Carr's site as I often do, for inspiration and guiding words. I found this article and would like to share some points I thought go along nicely with the work I've been doing with John Kim's Transparency:
From Maria Mooney's Article: Great Expectations, Great Disappointments?
Most of us have expectations. They are created and designed to help us attain peace of mind by predicting how the near or far future will unfold. They also help us make sense out of a world that is so often quite frightening and uncertain. When our expectations are fulfilled, we feel pleasantly surprised or satisfied; but when they aren’t, we often emerge bitterly disappointed and possibly traumatized because we have attached emotions to neutral outcomes.
I used to wake up every morning expecting to be healed, and morning after morning, my condition remained the same or worsened. It wasn’t until I surrendered to “what is” that I let go of expectation and subsequently disappointment, sadness and frustration. Your expectations, be they realistic or unrealistic, are the only causes of your disappointments and become the fertile grounds for which letdowns can and will flourish.
Concerning relationships and expectations, it is important to understand that certain people have limitations, whether they be mental, emotional, spiritual or physical, and that setting unrealistic expectations of others will end in nothing but bitterness, resentment, blame, feelings of letdown and even hatred. Understanding the limitations of others will allow us to circumvent disappointment by not setting unrealistic expectations that these individuals, even on their best days (perhaps, even in this lifetime), will not be able to meet.
A tip for avoiding the disappointments of unmet expectations and the judgment and resentment that often accompany them is to always approach each individual in your life as if you are meeting him or her for the first time. This will allow you to enter each situation without being clouded by the disappointments of the unmet expectations of the past. Avoiding the traps of expectations will allow you to have healthier relationships with others and ultimately with yourself.
Instead of focusing on what you don’t have or what you wish could happen, focus on what you do have. Stop living in the past or future and start focusing on the present moment. Have gratitude for the abundance in your life, and if you can’t find anything to be grateful for, look harder. For most of us, we are accustomed to a culture of deficit, of wanting more. What if you have everything you already need? What if you stopped longing for more, more, more, and started seeing the blessings in your life? Not only will you be happier and more at peace, but you will also attract more abundance to you.
I found some pieces of this article touched home for me. This weekend I had a run-in with a family member, a very important one, where I felt ashamed and helpless. He made it clear to me just how disappointed and shamed he remains in my life choices. I know damn well that I am not to blame for some the difficultly he has with his sisters (in which he regards me as a major reason for that difficulty) but yes, I of course take some of the blame. I shamed him. I know this. But he had issues before I ever came on the scene. I cannot take on all of this. I cannot accept that I am the reason he has problems communicating with his own family. I will not own that.
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